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Biblical Encouragement For The Lonely Wife
I don’t think it’s completely off base to say that a lot of wives go through some period of loneliness. Whether you have been married 10 years or 10 minutes, that feeling can come creeping in!
Maybe you’ve moved away from family and friends to somewhere new, had kids, a job change, or life has been just plain old overwhelming lately.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I’ve been there too; right after my husband and I got married, we moved 3 hours away from my family and started ministering as youth leaders in a new church. I didn’t know anyone. I was far away from my mom (we all need our mamas, no matter how old we are right??) and best friends.
Then we had our first child. I love my daughter with all my heart but nobody told me how lonely the “4th” trimester could be!
All it takes is for that one thought to enter in. That whisper from the enemy that says, “no one knows what you’re going through,” “you’ll always feel this way,” and the worst one, “no one cares.”
But God’s Word says something different.
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
God cares, and He never leaves us.
So, as wives and moms, what do we do when we are feeling this way? Here are three ways to combat loneliness with holiness.
Remember that God is ALWAYS faithful.
He never leaves our side. 2 Thessalonians 3:3 says:
“But the Lord is faithful. He will establish you and guard you against the evil one.”
He is always there, no matter where we go or how far we feel we have drifted. He is there when the water is abundantly flowing, and when we’re in the desert. The Bible says that He has established us. Not only is He faithful but He also guards us against the evil one! Loneliness is from Satan, not from the Lord. We can always turn to God for comfort.
Examine your hearts for hidden idols.
1 Corinthians 3:11 reads:
“For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.”
Anyone else ever have times where they place their identity in worldly things? Our spouses, kids, church, books, our jobs… all of these are gifts that have been given to us! However, when they become more important than the ONE who gave, we lose our focus and seek fulfillment outside of Christ.
Pray for the Lord to bring people into your life.
In James 4:2, he writes:
“you do not have because you do not ask God!”
God is not too big or too little for our prayers. The prayers that go unanswered are the ones that we don’t lay at his feet!
Do you desire godly friends in your life? Ask! We are created for relationship. We are meant to share our struggles and pray for each other, encourage and uplift each other. He wants to give us close community because we were never meant to go through this life alone.
Who else is thankful that God gives us ways to conquer these feelings of loneliness? When we stop believing the lies from the enemy, and start listening to the Truth, that is where transformation happens! We have each other and His Word to lean on, and I pray you take encouragement in these words.
Remember, sister, you are not alone!
Mindy is the creator of Marriage & Mommyhood. She is a Christ follower, loving wife and mama to a sweet little girl, with a passion for seeing marriages thrive, and sharing mom-tips. Her hope is to offer you encouragement in your marriages and as mothers. Let’s figure out life together!